Finding Peace After The Storm

In one months time, I have had to deal with two troubled people, one professionally and one socially. I have met neither of them in person. 

Professionally, I have filed an official letter of complaint with the proper authorities. This was easy to let go of and really did not effect me personally. This person tried to extort money from my Client and through harassment and intimidation. Karma has already taken care of him. The authorities will hopefully stop him from doing it to anyone else.

But yesterday, I had to block someone from my Facebook page. The matter would have been simple, but she is the girlfriend of a good friend/ex-boyfriend of mine.  The downward spiral started with an fun comment I made about a show I enjoy. Her first comment was just like a school yard bully, demeaning and "LOL" at me because "everyone knows the show is fake". 

I live my life with an open objective mind, and am more than happy to engage in an adult debate over different beliefs or evidence of a truth. This is not always easy, but the more you work at it, the easier it does get. 

This person proceeded shove her "evidence" down my throat, so to speak, ending with a snide comment reveling in her triumph over me. My next response was to point out to her that her tone and attitude was not appreciated. She then responded with a long paragraph of untrue accusations. 


I had over the course of our new-ish online relationship, began to get a sense of her "freak". My guess is that, through her life experiences, became a competitive and jealous person, lashing out without provocation. Although, some of her comments, especially in relation to my cats, were more of an overbearing motherly type.


Even after I told her, "goodbye, I hope you find your peace" at the end of what had become a 28 comment plus status update (think only 2 or three of the comments were mine, and one from another friend) ...she tagged me in a post on her own page, yet trying to force this down my throat. This forced me to send a note to my friend, letting him know what was transpiring and that I hoped it would not effect our now 15-year friendship. 


After un-friending her, she proceed to make thinly veiled comments about me on a post I had left on his page regarding the recent comeback of the Beavis & Butthead animated series. Later she added comments saying "ya, what a b" in a tone to suggest he had referenced me as such in a conversation they had had.


After I then flat out blocked her, she hijacked my friend's (her boyfriend) computer to send me an AOL/AIM text message to my phone, asking if this was my phone number and could we talk. I block that text suspecting that it was her.


I sent my friend a Facebook note asking if he had texted me...the response was "YES" followed by yet another response of "screw you" and "I know the show if fake"...wow, she is so full of an unprovoked need to best me, she can't even hold her own bluff. She then, apparently (I could be wrong here) unfriended me from my friends page. Later he or she requested "friendship" , I accepted hoping is was him. He then (or I assume) sent me a Facebook note "I am having trouble with my Facebook page, sorry of the confusion"...today I have been unfriended again.


But, my history with "freaks" and with the support of a friend who's also been in a similar situation, I have weathered the storm without compromising myself or my integrity as a sane human being. It is yet another of life's learning experiences, and as the Buddhists say, I should embraced this opportunities when they arise. I can do that, it's regaining my sense of peace that is hard. 
 
Although I refuse to be a victim, these two experiences, the second one in particular, bring back the pang of feeling on guard for my personal safety. And in future posts, I hope to exercise any latent negative energies I am holding onto from my life as a "freak" magnet.